New Moms usually dread returning to work. Their transitions may be charged with sadness or even guilt, which can be intensified with sleep deprivation. In fact, more than one of my girl friends “lost” her car when she parked it for work in the morning. They called the police hysterically crying since they were convinced someone stole it, but in reality they forgot where they parked it. The police found my friends’ lost cars in every instance on a different street than where they swore they parked it. As today is my first day back to work, I thank God my husband is dropping our boys off in the morning at my Mom’s and parking our car in their garage! And, THANK YOU, Mom!
Returning to work after my second maternity leave is bittersweet. I’ll miss my boys dearly, especially the sweet sound of our oldest, Andrew, regularly calling, “Mama, MAMA, MOMMY!” Ok, I’m getting a little teary thinking about how sweet his everything is – cuddles and cries alike. One of my favorites is how when I’m breast-feeding our sweet baby, Patrick, Andrew will also curl up with us. AND, I’ll miss the sweet smiles of our precious Patrick who is constantly more and more aware at three months. I hope I don’t miss hearing too many of his new sounds for the first time…
As my maternity leave quickly comes to an end, I will miss my sweet boys dearly when I go back to work. I am forcing myself to look on the positive, 🙂 so below are the top seven perks most of us enjoy right after we have a baby. If your due date or loved one’s due date is approaching, keep these in mind. And, please add anything I missed!
Social networks strongly support happiness. They mean a few people (or several hundred in some cases if you’re very popular on Facebook:) ) know how you’re doing and vise versa. They can help drive purpose and accountability in our lives.
If you recently moved to a new neighborhood or just want to broaden your network, consider volunteering in something that interests you or is just convenient. That’s how I got involved in our local fashion show.
I had remorse over not framing and hanging family photos or steam cleaning the rugs before our son Patrick Paul’s baptism yesterday for our family luncheon. Then, I stepped back and focused on the big picture. A special and intimate religious ceremony has nothing to do with superficial details in our home. Our son’s baptism was a wonderful celebration of our faith and our son. He is officially a Catholic now that he made his first sacrament, his baptism, which will be later followed by others such as his confirmation, when he becomes an adult in the church similar to a bar mitzvah, or wedding.
Just as he was reborn into the church, the sun kissed and blessed us in Chicago as the flowers finally started to bloom to welcome our baby boy into the church. What does our son’s baptism have to do with the future pope?
Everyone was at my Mom’s Annual Poetry Slam in honor of National Poetry Month (April) including W.B. Yeats, Walt Whitman and Langston Hughes. We travelled through time to the seventeenth century and also learned why tall fences make good neighbors.
Life sometimes means you have to balance competing priorities (work, play, etc.), which is often a juggling act. That may translate to chaos, which can be a whirlwind of unorganized activity… Below is a snapshot of the chaos and lessons learned that was our two boys and me as we spontaneously went to the park on Earth Day. Our big take away is a few quiet hours reading at home with the babes can be even better than forcing a park trip – especially when they’ve already had fresh air and class at the Park District. It helps to slow down to enjoy and savor the baby’s first smiles and sweet sounds as well as our two year old’s new discoveries.
We live near a new and contemporary church that is non-denominational, which seems to soft-sell happiness. It also seems very popular. That may mean some people want to believe in happiness and follow it as a way of life or philosophy. A lot of people think of “happiness” as feeling good, which seems to be a safe bet. Sunday’s Styles section of The New York Times article about Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, psychology professor and author at University of California at Riverside, shares a few good nuggets (see below for them in my words) as food for thought. Do you buy into this happiness thing?